how much attention you give your children.....

let me share a story shared on a group i belong to. i hope we learn from it.


     A teacher from Primary School asks her students to write a essay about what they would like for themselves. At the end of the day while marking the essays, she reads one that made her very emotional. Her husband, that had just walked in saw her crying and asked her: What happened? She answered: Read this. It's one of my students essays:

O God, tonight I ask you something very special. Make me into a television. I want to take its place. Live like the TV in my house. Have my own special place. And have my family around ME. To be taken seriously when I talk. I want to be the center of attention and be heard without interruptions or questions. I want to receive the same special care that the TV receives when it is not working. Have the company of my dad when he arrives home from work, even when he is tired. And I want my mom to want me when she is sad and upset, instead of ignoring me. And I want my brothers to fight to be with me. I want to feel that the family just leaves everything aside, every now and then, just to spend some time with me. And last but not least make it that I can make them all happy and entertain them. Lord I don't ask you for much. I just want to live like every TV.

At that moment the husband said: 'My God, poor kid. What horrible parents! She looked up at him and said: 'That essay is our son's'
 
    Even though the above story is just a story, let us take away a beneficial message from it. Ask yourself, do I treat my TV better than my children or my children better than my TV? does my phone get more time from me. When they are trying to converse or tell me something, do i continue with my pinging or texting and tell them to go away. The attention you show to them NOW goes a long way to help make them better human beings.

          

  I hope the story is self explanatory. pay more attention to those you care about, children, spouses, pets, environment, and more........

Ladies, Would you date an asshole than remain single??

 In relationships, most times the ladies argue of being at the losing end, whilst guys argue the negative.

Every experience is different and as such no gender can claim the loser at the end of the party. Though I must say, women suffer most of the brunt of it especially physically (with things like being hit by their men). Many women stick out the phy6sical assaults because they want to feel loved, be held by somebody tell themselves that someone cares while hanging on to poor excuses of men, missing out the good ones they could actually meet with.

A pretty lady stays with a guy with the hope that he would marry her. She sees him flirting openly with other ladies and gives the excuse that he loves her, sooner or later she gets an invitation (that is if he is polite enough) for his wedding to a lady she saw him with once or twice. She cries her eyes out telling herself no one would make a fool of her again unfortunately women are known to follow almost the same trend with men until something breaks the jinx. One treats men like money making objects, moving from one rich one to another till she gets the jackpot one while they all treat her like a princess, pampering her and buying her everything she wants. Months later she shows off her big diamond ring to her jealous friends.

Another lady not considered very pretty but with good character is lonely, doesn’t have a man in her life, well-bred and has accomplished quite a bit in life. She meets guy’s everyday but hardly do they ask her out most consider her as the girl next door and even when one does they just don’t meet the criteria she has in mind. She works at the relationship becoming better but it just doesn’t seem to be working fine they guys are mostly self-absorbed and she misses the passion depicted in all the love stories she sees around her and in books. Pouring all her emotions into work, life, family but wanting to start a relationship that works. Her mother (they cause a lot of problems here) constantly remind her that age is not on her side and wants to see her grandchildren before dying. You would think they would have a little compassion or try to be more understanding of the situation. In desperation, this lady finds herself in a relationship she just manages, tries not to complain till the ultimate goal (the gold band) has been achieved the talk of true love doesn’t come into the picture anymore (as mum says “better get married before you become an old maid”)

Some guys stay in relationships for selfish reasons, others stay because they are not sure of how it would be taken (some ladies and guys are terrible drama queens with terrible emotional problems) some even go as far as threatening to commit suicide or even to kill their partners also. Trust me they would sooner or later kill you. If you can’t take it, gradually introduce them to a psychologist and leave the relationship.

Let me just say this THERE IS HONOUR IN BEING AN OLD MAID. The bond of getting married shouldn’t be just because it has to be done or loneliness but for love.

I ask would you prefer to be in a bad relationship or be alone??

This thing called love??

I have often wondered if marriage wasn’t for the faint hearted, but staying Married for those with extremely strong hearts……

When two people meet, like each other, and start a relationship most times it is for the purpose of friendship, sex, money and or companionship.

In recent times sex and money play the ultimate role as the major things been sought by both parties. Gone are the things that are supposed to make the relationship stronger, for every hurt comes experience and with it knowledge.

Most men have Egos so big it would take a tractor to deflate and women look for the superficial in their relationships (fat bank accounts, flashy cars and nice house to top the list) missing the obvious and more important factors. The time when couples worked hard together to make things better and start a family bond stronger than any other is long gone.  No one here says the man shouldn’t be the provider of the family but women work with your men here he cannot do it all alone even if you are a house wife.

Let me site an example before I begin my main story. In a family where the husband is the sole breadwinner, caters to their every need of the family including house cleaning, the wife is a housewife.  Now, the wife stays home all day doing nothing, the maid helps her with everything else needed like cooking of breakfast and dinner including care of the children who already attend schools, the driver takes the children to school and back (while being very badly behaved and not properly trained), the husband gets home after close of work around 7pm the wife is sleeping and there is no food on the table. The wife instructs the maid not to begin to prepare dinner till 9pm, while the food tastes like shit.  How does this trend start?? Woman, why be so lazy??

Let me site an example of a beginning, Dipo and Temi meet at the club, they start dating and things begin to develop from there. They begin to meet more frequently and one thing leads to another Temi gets pregnant but says to Dipo, abortion is not an option. Dipo says “I am not ready to be tied down in marriage yet” but thinks well we have fun together and great sex why not. After a while they come to an agreement, it’s time for a meeting of the families and marriage preparations begin in earnest.

Temi’s friends say to her “wow, you are so lucky to have such a catch” and she goes all blushing and smiling. Dipo’s friends, some say “seems our young man has been caught by the Love spell going around” and one sensible one asks “Dip oar you sure you wanna do this?? Im just asking cos you don’t seem ready to me, but s=don’t let me be a party pooper. Congratulations man”

The couple to be hardly has time to see each other during the preparations as the families want them to be united before the baby comes along. The questions that needed to be asked have been forgotten or skipped. The usually observant and careful mothers resort to making sure the Aso-Ebi(materials to be worn by family and friends) is in the right color, order and enough quantity. They wanna bear the title Grandma before they can even see the pregnancy reaches full term.

When the dotted lines are signed, the baby comes, there is no time for honeymoon or the couple getting to know themselves and all the hidden traits come to the fore.

They realize this thing called Love was never in the picture. What happens then?? Most couples especially in the Africans may still try to work it out but that is fast becoming a thing of the past as divorce rates are on the rise.

Must many lives be ruined before the gross error becomes glaring??

FLASHBACK @YOUR LIFE!! CAN YOU DARE??

   I am sure lots of people might wonder…….. …..

    Sometimes in life, when we have friends who are in need, and if it is within our power to help them we immediately spring to help them, not minding that they might not be ready for assistance and the effort might end up wasted or cause major harm at that particular time.

     How do we know till we try, right?

An adage says ‘a dog that would get missing would ignore the hunters whistle’ the same goes for a child that is placed on a bed he doesn’t belong; he would soon prove you wrong by falling off it except he is really worth it.

In life, as human beings we are told to Love our neighbors as ourselves. How much of that do we do? Do we hurt others while laughing at their discomfort? Do we take advantage of people? Saying “the strong survives by trampling on the weak” do we genuinely apologize when we have wronged someone? Do we take time out to make others feel comfortable? Do we time time to say “I am sorry from the depth of our hearts, or laugh it off as one of those things?

Can we sit and take account of our lives and feel comfortable enough to smile that we have done right? Have we imparted a little knowledge, helped the needy, spread Love, been faithful, told no(or few lies), hurt no one knowingly, stolen from someone, cheated somebody, been selfish(even to ourselves) and so much more??

If we cannot sit happy after taking a flashback then there is a serious need for change. A positive one that makes us more understanding, caring and loving ensuring we live our lives in a more positive manner.

Can I do more than FLASHBACK, Smile and Live Happy J

Just how the ish is++

   I have often wondered that marriage wasn’t for the faint hearted, but staying Married for those with extremely strong hearts……

When two people meet, like each other, and start a relationship most times it is for the purpose of friendship, sex,  money and or companionship.

In recent times sex and money play the ultimate role as the major things been sought by both parties. Gone are the things that are supposed to make the relationship stronger(the struggles they undergo together, little arguments that end in kisses and a whole lot more), for every hurt comes experience and with it knowledge.

      Most men have Egos so big it would take a tractor to deflate them but the Ultimate woman always does and women look for the superficial in their relationships (fat bank accounts, flashy cars and nice house to top the list) missing the obvious and more important factors. The times when in the past couples worked hard together to make things better and start a family bond stronger than any other is long gone.  No one here says the man shouldn’t be the provider of the family but women work with your men here he cannot do it all alone even if you are a house wife.

Let me site an example before I begin my main story. In a family where the husband is the sole breadwinner, caters to their every need of the family including house cleaning, the wife is a housewife.  Now, the wife stays home all day doing nothing, the maid helps her with everything else needed like cooking of breakfast and dinner including care of the children who already attend schools, the driver takes the children to school and back (while being very badly behaved and not properly trained), the husband gets home after close of work around 7pm the wife is sleeping and there is no food on the table. The wife instructs the maid not to begin to prepare dinner till 9pm, while the food tastes like shit.  How does this trend start?? Woman, why be so lazy??

Let me site an example of a beginning, Dipo and Temi meet at the club, they start dating and things begin to develop from there. They begin to meet more frequently and one thing leads to another Temi gets pregnant but says to Dipo, abortion is not an option. Dipo says “I am not ready to be tied down in marriage yet” but thinks well we have fun together and great sex why not. After a while they come to an agreement, it’s time for a meeting of the families and marriage preparations begin in earnest.

the thing most women can almost die to have. but would it be worth it is the question?

Temi’s friends say to her “wow, you are so lucky to have such a catch” and she goes all blushing and smiling. Dipo’s friends, some say “seems our young man has been caught by the Love spell going around” and one sensible one asks “Dip oar you sure you wanna do this?? Im just asking cos you don’t seem ready to me, but don’t let me be a party pooper. Congratulations man”

The couple to be hardly has time to see each other during the preparations as the families want them to be united before the baby comes along. The questions that needed to be asked have been forgotten or skipped. The usually observant and careful mothers resort to making sure the Aso-Ebi(materials to be worn by family and friends) is in the right color, order and enough quantity. They wanna bear the title Grandma before they can even see the pregnancy reaches full term.

When the dotted lines are signed, the baby comes, there is no time for honeymoon or the couple getting to know themselves and all the hidden traits come to the fore.

They realize this thing called Love was never in the picture. What happens then?? Most couples especially in the Africans may still try to work it out but that is fast becoming a thing of the past as divorce rates are on the rise.
The shocker comes in the end.

Must many lives be ruined before the gross error becomes glaring??

Thank you for reading!!